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Andy Grammer smiles at a red carpet event. he wears a deep burgundy suit jacket.

Andy Grammer Shares How He Takes On Grief Through Kind Acts for Strangers

Andy Grammer is no stranger to random acts of kindness.

The “Damn, It Feels Good to Be Me” singer pulls out his guitar at subway stations, just to make people smile. He sings for children in hospital. He invites fans struggling with illness backstage and does solo performances for them. He leaves kind notes for strangers, just because. And who could forget that time he picked up the tab for a group of women who reminded him of his late mother, Kathy? She’d passed away from breast cancer in 2009 when Andy was 25 and as it turned out, one of the women whose meals he paid for had recently lost her son to cancer. It was a moment that left Andy, the women – and all of us – in tears.

Correction – bawling, actually.

Speaking to Podcrushed hosts Penn Badgley, Nava Kavelin and Sophie Ansari, Andy explains how random acts of kindness are a way for him to take on his grief and honour his beloved mum:

“I like to go on offence sometimes with grieving. If I see someone that’s the same age as my mother in front of me in line… I’ll be like, ‘hey I lost my mum and I don’t get to buy her stuff. Would you mind if I bought your coffee?'”

He adds: “I just like, live that way and when you live that way. Wow. Crazy stuff happens. And you’re just like kind of in the flow and putting your tokens in and the downside of it is sometimes you look stupid. Sometimes you’re like, really weird!”

Andy goes on to explain how these acts are a meaningful way to not only cope with loss but to transform pain and heartbreak:

“Grief doesn’t have to be something that just hits you when you’re not ready for it. I tell everybody that’s going through the loss of someone, like, what do they love? Do they love bread? Their thing was to make bread? Set days and make bread and give it out. Go on offence to be a part of it and get this really sweet feeling of remembering them.”

During the episode, he also chats about the importance of always being true to yourself. You can listen to the moving episode HERE – and yeah, you might want to keep the tissues handy for this one…

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