Missy Higgins is reminding us all that it’s completely okay to feel heartbreak and grieve lost relationships – because that’s what humans do.
In a candid post on Instagram, the Aussie musician revealed that she recently split from her husband of six years, Dan Lee, and is struggling emotionally:
“The shame of a ‘failed marriage’, a ‘broken family’, all the things I swore I would never let happen, happened. I was so determined for this not to be my story. We tried many ways to keep the story alive, keep things together, keep on searching down new avenues of hope, or hope-covered denial as it may have been. But then life happens, doesn’t it. And once again I’m on my knees and utterly humbled by my inability to control it,” she writes.
“I’m still grieving. I realised this today as I was walking through the bush crying like a lunatic in the rain. Grieving the way I thought things would turn out. Grieving the never-ending story-book love story I will never have, the unattainable one that’s fed to me every time I turn on the tv.”
Missy goes on to explain that she’s still friends with her ex but can’t help but feel like she’s “failed” at life.
“You’re questioning everything up until this point: your childhood, your parents, your ideals, your life choices, what the future will hold now that the fairytale is in cinders on the floor.”
But she’s urging anyone going through similar feelings to realise that it’s perfectly okay –
“…To all the shattered hearts out there inside the compounds of their homes grieving quietly and feeling like an anomaly, you’re not alone. You’re not broken, you’re just human. We’re all just making it up as we go.”
Did you catch that?
You’re not broken.
You’re just human.
Hang in there. And if you or anyone you know needs mental health support, reach out to LifeLine on 13 11 14 or to the local helpline in your country.
(Feature Image Credit: Stuart Sevastos, CC BY 2.0 <https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0>, via Wikimedia Commons)